"Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love."
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| Egon Schiele, Self portrait with folded hands |
Borgeby gard, Fladie, Sweden
August 12, 1904*
I want to talk to you again for a little while, dear Mr. Kappus, although there is almost nothing I can say that will help you, and I can hardly find one useful word. You have had many sadnesses, large ones, which passed. And you say that even this passing was difficult and upsetting for you. But please, ask yourself whether these large sadnesses haven't rather gone right through you. Perhaps many things inside you have been transformed; perhaps somewhere, someplace deep inside your being, you have undergone important changes while you were sad. The only sadnesses that are dangerous and unhealthy are the ones that we carry around in public in order to drown them out with the noise; like diseases that are treated superficially and foolishly, they just withdraw and after a short interval break out again all the more terribly; and gather inside us and are life, are life that is unlived, rejected, lost, life that we can die of. If only it were possible for us to see farther than our knowledge reaches, and even a little beyond the outworks of our presentiment, perhaps we would bear our sadnesses with greater trust than we have in our joys. For they are the moments when something new has entered us, something unknown; our feelings grow mute in shy embarrassment, everything in us withdraws, a silence arises, and the new experience, which no one knows, stands in the midst of it all and says nothing.
It seems to me that almost all our
sadnesses are moments of tension, which we feel as paralysis because we no
longer hear our astonished emotions living. Because we are alone with the
unfamiliar presence that has entered us; because everything we trust and are
used to is for a moment taken away from us; because we stand in the midst of a
transition where we cannot remain standing. That is why the sadness passes: the
new presence inside us, the presence that has been added, has entered our heart,
has gone into its innermost chamber and is no longer even there, is already in
our bloodstream. And we don't know what it was. We could easily be made to
believe that nothing happened, and yet we have changed, as a house that a guest
has entered changes. We can't say who has come, perhaps we will never know, but
many signs indicate that the future enters us in this way in order to be
transformed in us, long before it happens. And that is why it is so important
to be solitary and attentive when one is sad: because the seemingly uneventful
and motionless moment when our future steps into us is so much closer to life
than that other loud and accidental point of time when it happens to us as if
from outside. The quieter we are, the more patient and open we are in our
sadnesses, the more deeply and serenely the new presence can enter us, and the
more we can make it our own, the more it becomes our fate; and later on, when
it "happens" (that is, steps forth out of us to other people), we
will feel related and close to it in our innermost being. And that is necessary.
It is necessary - and toward this point our development will move, little by
little - that nothing alien happen to us, but only what has long been our own. People
have already had to rethink so many concepts of motion; and they will also
gradually come to realize that what we call fate does not come into us from the
outside, but emerges from us. It is only because so many people have not
absorbed and transformed their fates while they were living in them that they
have not realized what was emerging from them; it was so alien to them that, in
their confusion and fear, they thought it must have entered them at the very
moment they became aware of it, for they swore they had never before found anything
like that inside them. just as people for a long time had a wrong idea about
the sun's motion, they are even now wrong about the motion of what is to come. The
future stands still, dear Mr. Kappus, but we move in infinite space.
How could it not be difficult for us?
And to speak of solitude again, it becomes clearer and clearer that fundamentally this is nothing that one can choose or refrain from. We are solitary. We can delude ourselves about this and act as if it were not true. That is all. But how much better it is to recognize that we are alone; yes, even to begin from this realization. It will, of course, make us dizzy; for all points that our eyes used to rest on are taken away from us, there is no longer anything near us, and everything far away is infinitely far. A man taken out of his room and, almost without preparation or transition, placed on the heights of a great mountain range, would feel something like that: an unequalled insecurity, an abandonment to the nameless, would almost annihilate him. He would feel he was falling or think he was being catapulted out into space or exploded into a thousand pieces: what a colossal lie his brain would have to invent in order to catch up with and explain the situation of his senses. That is how all distances, all measures, change for the person who becomes solitary; many of these changes occur suddenly and then, as with the man on the mountaintop, unusual fantasies and strange feelings arise, which seem to grow out beyond all that is bearable. But it is necessary for us to experience that too. We must accept our reality as vastly as we possibly can; everything, even the unprecedented, must be possible within it. This is in the end the only kind of courage that is required of us: the courage to face the strangest, most unusual, most inexplicable experiences that can meet us. The fact that people have in this sense been cowardly has done infinite harm to life; the experiences that are called it apparitions, the whole so-called "spirit world," death, all these Things that are so closely related to us, have through our daily defensiveness been so entirely pushed out of life that the senses with which we might have been able to grasp them have atrophied. To say nothing of God. But the fear of the inexplicable has not only impoverished the reality of the individual; it has also narrowed the relationship between one human being and another, which has as it were been lifted out of the riverbed of infinite possibilities and set down in a fallow place on the bank, where nothing happens. For it is not only indolence that causes human relationships to be repeated from case to case with such unspeakable monotony and boredom; it is timidity before any new, inconceivable experience, which we don't think we can deal with. But only someone who is ready for everything, who doesn't exclude any experience, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive and will himself sound the depths of his own being. For if we imagine this being of the individual as a larger or smaller room, it is obvious that most people come to know only one corner of their room, one spot near the window, one narrow strip on which they keep walking back and forth. In this way they have a certain security. And yet how much more human is the dangerous in security that drives those prisoners in Poe's stories to feel out the shapes of their horrible dungeons and not be strangers to the unspeakable terror of their cells. We, however, are not prisoners. No traps or snares have been set around us, and there is nothing that should frighten or upset us. We have been put into life as into the element we most accord with, and we have, moreover, through thousands of years of adaptation, come to resemble this life so greatly that when we hold still, through a fortunate mimicry we can hardly be differentiated from everything around us. We have no reason to harbor any mistrust against our world, for it is not against us. If it has terrors, they are our terrors; if it has abysses, these abysses belong to us; if there are dangers, we must try to love them. And if only we arrange our life in accordance with the principle which tells us that we must always trust in the difficult, then what now appears to us as the most alien will become our most intimate and trusted experience. How could we forget those ancient myths that stand at the beginning of all races, the myths about dragons that at the last moment are transformed into princesses?
Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.
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| Egon Schiele, Levitation, 1915 |
So you mustn't be frightened, dear Mr. Kappus,
if a sadness rises in front of you, larger than any you have ever seen; if an
anxiety, like light and cloud-shadows, moves over your hands and over
everything you do. You must realize that something is happening to you, that
life has not forgotten you, that it holds you in its hand and will not let you
fall. Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any misery, any
depression, since after all you don't know what work these conditions are doing
inside you? Why do you want to persecute yourself with the question of where
all this is coming from and where it is going? Since you know, after all, that
you are in the midst of transitions and you wished for nothing so much as to
change. If there is anything unhealthy in your reactions, just bear in mind
that sickness is the means by which an organism frees itself from what is
alien; so one must simply help it to be sick, to have its whole sickness and to
break out with it, since that is the way it gets better. In you, dear Mr. Kappus,
so much is happening now; you must be patient like someone who is sick, and
confident like some one who is recovering; for perhaps you are both. And more: you
are also the doctor, who has to watch over himself. But in every sickness there
are many days when the doctor can do nothing but wait. And that is what you,
insofar as you are your own doctor, must now do, more than anything else.
Don't observe yourself too closely. Don't
be too quick to draw conclusions from what happens to you; simply let it happen.
Otherwise it will be too easy for you to look with blame (that is: morally) at
your past, which naturally has a share in everything that now meets you. But
whatever errors, wishes, and yearnings of your boyhood are operating in you now
are not what you remember and condemn. The extraordinary circumstances of a
solitary and helpless childhood are so difficult, so complicated, surrendered
to so many influences and at the same time so cut off from all real connection with
life that, where a vice enters it, one may not simply call it a vice. One must
be so careful with names anyway; it is so often the name of an offense that a
life shatters upon, not the nameless and personal action itself, which was
perhaps a quite definite necessity of that life and could have been absorbed by
it without any trouble. And the expenditure of energy seems to you so great
only because you overvalue victory; it is not the "great thing" that
you think you have achieved, although you are right about your feeling; the
great thing is that there was already something there which you could replace
that deception with, something true and real. Without this even your victory
would have been just a moral reaction of no great significance; but in fact it
has be come a part of your life. Your life, dear Mr. Kappus, which I think of
with so many good wishes. Do you remember how that life yearned out of
childhood toward the "great thing"? I see that it is now yearning
forth beyond the great thing toward the greater one. That is why it does not
cease to be difficult, but that is also why it will not cease to grow.
And if there is one more thing that I must
say to you, it is this: Don't think that the person who is trying to comfort
you now lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes give
you pleasure. His life has much trouble and sadness, and remains far behind
yours. If it were otherwise, he would never have been able to find those words.
Yours,
Rainer
Maria Rilke
Rainer
Maria Rilke, "Letters to a Young Poet"
(Η όγδοη από τις 10 επιστολές που έγραψε ο Ρίλκε από το
1903 ώς το 1908 στον 19χρονο Franz
Kappus, σπουδαστή της Στρατιωτικής Σχολής της Βιέννης, που αργότερα έγινε
πεζογράφος και κριτικός λογοτεχνίας.)
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